IN-PERSON IN TACOMA, WA | WA & FL ONLINE
Relationship & Boundaries Therapy
You’re always tracking your relationships
Every shift. Every unspoken tension.
Sometimes before the other person even realizes it.
You love understanding your relationships—
but no amount of analyzing has made them feel easier.
It makes sense if you’re tired.
It makes sense if part of you is wondering,
Why does it always feel like it’s on me?
You’re not broken.
Of course part of you wants more.
You’re not too much for feeling it all.
The parts of you that want space, that crave closeness,
that still hold hope for something more—there’s nothing wrong with them.
They’re not dramatic or selfish.
They just haven’t had the kind of understanding they actually needed.
How We Shift The Pattern
STEP 1
Map the System That’s Been Running Your Relationships
At some point, different parts of you stepped in to keep you safe—
Some try to stay small to avoid disappointment. Others track every shift, hoping to prevent abandonment.
A few quietly rebel or disconnect when things get too big.
These aren’t flaws. They’re strategies— ones that made sense at the time.
We bring clarity and compassion to the system behind your patterns— so you can lead it instead of being led by it.
STEP 2
Process the Emotions That Hold the Pattern in Place
Insight helps, but it’s not enough.
These dynamics shift when the emotions underneath—
fear, disappointment, longing—are named and felt.
That’s when your protectors can soften.
That’s when new choices open.
STEP 3
Learn to Be Met Without Overgiving
Maybe the question isn’t how much more you can give, but how much you are willing to be met.
We get clear on what you need, what you can give yourself, and how to express the rest—without shrinking or overexplaining.
This isn’t about needing less.
It’s about trusting your needs — you deserve to be held well.
What Clients Often Say Changes
✓ Speaking up without rehearsing every response, so you can be more present instead of getting stuck in your head.
✓ Leaving conversations without replaying them later, questioning what you said or worrying about how it landed.
✓ Feeling less responsible for other people’s reactions, even when you’re attuned, caring, and perceptive.
✓ Clearer boundaries that come earlier, before resentment, shutdown, or emotional overload set in.
✓ More ease and authenticity in connection, where you don’t have to work so hard to be understood or okay.
A grounded ability to name your feelings, needs, and values, so you know what you need when you’re ready to share.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT
Relationship Therapy
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I only see individuals.
If you are struggling in a relationship, we focus on your side of the dynamic, helping you navigate boundaries, express needs, and stop over-functioning in ways that leave you drained. Whether it's your relationship with your romantic partner, friendship, family or a situationship, I am happy to discuss the patterns that you are experiencing in any one of them.
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Yes. I work with many clients who are sorting through painful, layered family dynamics—including estrangement.
Whether the decision’s already made or still unfolding, this is a space to slow down, grieve what’s real, and hear what’s actually yours.
We don’t push for reconnection or distance.
We honor how complex it is—and when it feels like a lose-lose, we focus on what supports you where you are today.
There’s no perfect answer. But there is relief in choosing what you need, and doing your best not to turn against yourself in the process.
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You’re not alone.
Many of my clients come from families shaped by substance use, incarceration, emotional unpredictability, or the kind of chaos that never got named.
Whether things were loud or quietly heavy, this isn’t about assigning blame.
You don’t have to prove what you’ve been through to be understood here.
We work with the roles you’ve carried, the patterns that still show up, and the part of you that’s always been trying to hold it all together.
We go at your pace. And we do it without shame.
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Insight is a start—but it’s not the finish line.
We don’t just talk about patterns. We work with the emotions underneath—the ones that keep you stuck, looping, or pulled into old roles.
When those emotions are heard and integrated, it’s not just that things make sense. They start to feel different.
That’s what makes change possible.
