Attachment Therapy in Washington + Florida
With Tanya Kincaid
I work with people who understand their relationship patterns but still feel stuck in them.
You're always tracking your relationships.
Every shift. Every unspoken tension. Sometimes before the other person even realizes it — you're always tracking your relationships, anticipating shifts in connection before anything's even happened.
You understand your patterns. But no amount of analyzing has made your relationships feel easier.
It makes sense if you're tired.
It makes sense if part of you is wondering: why does it always feel like it's on me?
Do your relationships feel confusing or repetitive? Do you wonder if the problem is you or your partner?
Many people feel pulled between wanting closeness and feeling overwhelmed by it — like they're "too much," or not enough.
This often shows up as:
Repeating relationship cycles
Fear of being smothered or losing yourself
Difficulty trusting
People pleasing
Avoiding conflict
Feeling "too much"
Pulling away or disconnecting
Feeling reactive or overwhelmed
These are protective patterns, not personal flaws.
How Attachment Therapy With Me Works
These patterns aren't random. Different parts of you are trying to manage connection:
A part that wants closeness
A part that feels overwhelmed by it
A part that tries to keep things stable, or avoid conflict
So you can feel pulled in different directions: wanting connection and resisting it at the same time.
We don't just talk about your relationships.
We slow these patterns down so you can actually see what's happening, instead of getting pulled into the same cycle again. Then we go underneath the reaction itself. The part of you that's overwhelmed, bracing, pulling away, or trying to hold everything together.
Something starts to shift when you can stay with what's happening instead of immediately moving away from it.
You might notice yourself soften a little. React differently than you usually would. Or finally understand what's actually happening underneath the pattern.
That's where change starts. Not by forcing yourself to act differently, but by changing your relationship to what's happening inside of you. Then we work on helping those shifts hold outside of session.
Modalities I Use
Therapy with me is focused on both insight and real-time change as it's happening.
Internal Family Systems (IFS): Helps identify attachment-related parts and unmet needs.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Builds values-based connection in relationships.
Depth Psychology: Explores the origin of relational patterns.
Somatic Therapy: Supports communication and conflict repair skills.
Feel Grounded In Your Relationships
AFTER ATTACHMENT THERAPY WITH ME, CLIENTS REPORT:
✔ Healthier communication
✔ Less relationship anxiety
✔ Clearer boundaries
✔ Reduced guilt
✔ More secure connection
✔ Less reactivity
✔ Stronger self-trust
✔ Fewer repeating cycles
If you've had another therapist before, clients call me 'more present.' One of my special talents is connecting all the dots together.
About Tanya Kincaid, LMHC
I work with relationship patterns through a parts-based lens, so you can understand why different reactions show up.
Sessions with me are direct, engaged, and highly attuned; I track patterns in real time so you can see how your system is working, and shift what's actually driving it.
Growing up, I spent a lot of time trying to make sense of the people around me. I was fascinated by people, families, and the ways different environments shape us.
Today, I work with many clients who grew up in complex environments such as family instability, substance use, rigid expectations, emotional unpredictability, or competing cultural values.
My role is helping you understand the patterns that once helped you adapt and decide which ones still belong in your life.
Education, Credentials & Trainings: IFS training with Richard Schwartz · Treating Complex Trauma with IFS (Frank Anderson) · ACT Advanced Training · Depth Psychology & Biopsychosocial Training, Bastyr University · Gottman Level 1 · Nonviolent Communication Training
Availability: I work with individuals in person in Tacoma, WA and via telehealth across Washington state and Florida.
3 Steps To Get Started
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Contact Me
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Brief Consultation
We'll connect briefly to see if working together feels like a good match.
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First Session
We'll begin mapping your patterns and understanding your internal system.
Ready to break cycles and feel more secure?
Tatyana (Tanya) Kincaid, LMHC
Therapy for deep thinkers, over-analyzers, and highly perceptive people who feel like they have to fix themselves.
BASED IN TACOMA, WA | SERVING WASHINGTON & FLORIDA ONLINE
2111 N. 30th St, Tacoma, WA 98403
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